Secrets to Long Lasting Relationship – Pathway to getting your right Life Partner – Relationship is what everyone must be into. You can be in relationship with God or with your fellow human being – either a male or a female. The point is how to make the relationship last longer. A lot of person finds it difficult to continue being in relationship with their partner, may be due to one or two problems. Do you know that something can be done about it if really you still want to be in the relationship. There is a saying, that for one to learn, he learns from his past mistakes and as well from people that has been and seen what is there before them.
Don’t build a relationship if you cannot make it end well. Commencement is not the issue, the problem is maintenance. Just like, owning a car is not the issue, but the maintenance. It needs money to maintain a car. It also needs wisdom and knowledge to maintain a relationship.
A relationship that would last long depends on our individual contributions. If our mind is still the same, it continues and flows like ocean.
There are indeed a few tips illustrated below which would help to build a long lasting relationship. Are you frustrated in your relationship? Are you tired of continuing? Just remember this, something can still be done.
SECRET TIPS TO LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP
- Make Time to Talk
Communication is the best way to keep a long lasting relationship. Through communication, both of you can understand each other more; at least understand what each other like. Try to make out time to talk with your partner. Out of your busy schedule no matter how tight you may be, always try to talk to your partner.
If partners communicate always and freely, they understand each other very well.
- Make each other happy
Happiness is a very vital point in relationship but people don’t know. The question is how do I make my partner happy? There are many ways to do that, no matter how hard it may seem to you, continue trying until you find something that will make your partner happy. As we all know “When happiness marries happiness, you will higher and higher.” You may start with jokes, funny stories, make sure you put it in a way that both of you will laugh and feel relieved.
I know your question is what of if I’m not good at jokes or telling funny stories. You don’t have to worry, and don’t even see it as a sign of failure. It is typically natural as there are things you are not good at but in all there are things you can do better. Just proof yourself with the ones you can. Try sharing the story or cracking the jokes, whether interesting or not, let it be that communication is ongoing and both of you gives yourself listening ears.
If partners feel happy, it makes the connection stronger.
- Always spend time together
This is what people fail to adapt to, not finding time to spend with their partner. If something is important to you, the best thing to do is to give it time. What else do you spend your time doing that is more preferable to your partner. Out of your busy schedule, find time to see your partner, spend time together. The question from some persons may be, what are we to be doing anytime we see ourselves. Like I normally tell my friends, once both of you sees each other, what to discuss must come out. Find something that will make both of you to stay for a very long time.
Have you observed this, if you leave your partner for some time, who do you think he/she spends that time with.
To be frank, the time your partner does not spend with you was handsomely spent with another person who worth your partner.
The more you spend time together, the more people know that you are in relationship. This will make people to always ask you of your partner anytime you are not together. In all, always try to give them reply because you ought to know the whereabouts of your friend.
If partners spend time together, it creates room for advertisement.
- Always speak the truth
Truth is hard to say, but, the best to save one from too much stress. What do I mean? If one relies on telling lies to people, he is creating injury to himself. Can you think of this, what if “the cat is let out of the net” that is the truth is revealed, what will be the result.
Speak the truth always to your partner. Tell your partner what you know that is the truth. Don’t tell your partner that this is A while other people tells him that is B. Don’t allow your partner to find out the truth from another person.
If that happens, your partner will find it difficult to believe you. There is nothing you may say on earth, no matter the iota of truth in it, your partner will not believe you. All because, the confidence and trust built has been killed by the amount of lies you poured out.
But what is there to say the truth? Come to think of it, if you tell your partner the truth, the partner will reveal his or her own view towards what you’ve said.
For the relationship to last longer there must be truth sayings between the partners. ‘Not saying the truth can scatter an old built relationship in a second’. What you spent your time arranging, God knows when, is just scattered in a second just because a truth is revealed. This is foolishness and waste of time and energy.
If partners speak the truth, the spirit of believability comes and dwell forever.
- Show forth not your characters that you know is bad
Everyone is not perfect, there are areas of life one cannot control or defend himself. You know the things you do that people do not like or complain more of. If for instance, you are a thief, and your partner is not a thief, the best thing to do to avoid her finding out is to quit from it. Any reputation of yours that is bad, try to change so that you can defend yourself confidently whenever your partner finds out. For instance, your partner finds out that you are a thief. If I’m to advise you, tell your partner, yes, I was a thief before, but now I thank God for bringing you forth to me, for you helped me change. He/she may ask you, How? Truthfully, tell your partner, “I really do not want to indulge in such act again because I don’t want my reputation to be ruined and yours also. The kind of person you are made me change my lifestyle. Thanks for coming into my life”.
If there are things people do not like about you, don’t show it forth before your partner. If you continue like that, it will help you to dissociate yourself from such bad omen.
There are characters one can display before his /her partners which may scare him/her away and always trying to avoide you.
If partners show forth good characters, it makes them look like kings.
- Appreciate each other always
Appreciation is another vital point. I know you may ask, how can appreciation help to build a long lasting relationship. The point is this, appreciation makes someone feel that you value him/her, in fact you value his ideology. You are happy for knowing him/her.
Always tell your partner, you are the best, thank you for everything. Your partner will feel better than before, just try and see.
Sometimes, as both of you are communicating, you can easily change the topic, do you know since I met you, you have done so much in my life, you’ve contributed a lot to me. Thank you very much. You are the best. I love you so much. Without you and God I wouldn’t have achieved what I have achieved today. You made most of my dreams come true. What would I have done without you. Thank God for bringing you to me. Thank you so much and may God keep protecting you for me. I love you dear.
Always appreciate your partner, no matter how little he or she contributes, just tell him or her thank you.
Let me tell you this, it is not easy to see someone that will have your time. So appreciate the little the person contributes. Even if is words of encouragement, appreciate it. Even if it’s not welcomed, for as far as the person uses his time and energy to contribute, appreciate him.
Appreciation seem little but greater in your partner’s mindset.
- Don’t depend on financial relief only
Don’t associate with someone because of the money you benefit from the person. What if the money is not there? For a relationship to last longer, you must remove such from your mind. Don’t put money as your main priority because it will make the relationship to scatter. Any day he finds out that the reason you associate with him is because of money he will chose another person over you.
Even if you benefit from your partner financially, don’t keep the relationship because of money. ‘Don’t be in a parasitic relationship; rather try to build a mutual relationship’.
If you benefit money from your partner, what does he benefit from you? Try and let it be at equilibrium for a long lasting relationship.
If you are in relationship because of money, is indeed a poor foundation.
- Support each other in terms whenever it arises
For a longer relationship, you must see yourself as a ladder that your partner can rely on whenever he or she is depressed. Support him or her, no matter how difficult it is.
Let me tell you this, if you fail to support your partner, another person will give him support. If that happens, the relationship will start shaking.
If for instance, your partner needs money, and you don’t have the particular amount he requested for, don’t kill yourself for him rather support with the little you have either with words of encouragement or financially.
This is why saying truth is important, as your partner will understand that you don’t have and that is why you did not give him.
You can assist your partner in prayer. Always pray for the success of your partner. In one way God will bless your endeavours.
Don’t run and leave your partner because of the problem he/she has, always support him with what you know you can do best. Just try your best. Who knows, it could be a temptation, to tear the relationship apart. To avoid crying Had I known, support him don’t run and leave him to die. He or she may survive in that problem and that’s the end of the relationship since you ran away which signifies that you did not value him.
A partner is indeed a partner when he answers in terms of needs and problems.
- Apologize whenever you are wrong
Apology supposes to be the easiest thing to say but some people finds it difficult while some drinks it like water. Apologizing always makes the relationship look unserious. Like my friend would say, it makes the relationship look like a cloth with patches.
If have done something and you know you are wrong, please apologize kindly to your partner. If your partner is wrong but he or she still claims to be right, for the longer sustenance of the relationship, just apologize.
Don’t claim king, bring yourself down. No matter your social class, apologize and feel free.
No one is above mistake; you can always correct your mistake. To correct the mistake is by apologizing. Don’t say is it this small thing. Take your partner as a king and you see yourself as a good servant that wants to continue working with the king. If both continue with this, the relationship will last longer.
If partners apologize and forgives, both understands their problem and build the relationship more.
- Always celebrate with your partner
When something good happens, tell your partner and let it call for a celebration. Your partner is one of the best persons to celebrate with because both of you contributed in one way to make it work out.
Always feel happy whenever you see your partner, see each day you set your eyes on him or her as your best day. Feel joyous and glamorous. Put your problems aside and celebrate with your partner.
Always celebrate your partner… make him feel good. Try to put smile on his face.
Relationship is “Win together and celebrate together”
These are indeed a few tips to long lasting relationship. I believe it helped you to amend and thinks of building a long lasting relationship.
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